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3 Riffs on Relating

3 riffs on relat­ing — ideas and con­cepts about explor­ing the depth of inti­ma­cy The great­est error in rela­­tion­­ship-build­ing comes from the idea that your part­ner can “make you whole,” or will “make you hap­py.” Here are 3 riffs on relat­ing! Riff the First — The black hole I look at my core, the cen­ter of …

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Being a Mirror

Being a Mir­ror is all about help­ing oth­ers to hear them­selves by reflect­ing back, with­out judge­ment. I sus­pect that the rea­son that most cou­ples have prob­lems with com­mu­ni­ca­tion is that they have grown up wit­ness­ing poor com­mu­ni­ca­tion.  So let me define a few things that good com­mu­ni­ca­tion is not. Good com­mu­ni­ca­tion is not: get­ting anoth­er per­son …

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Setting Boundaries

Set­ting Bound­aries — one source for stress is a lack of bound­aries, AKA the inabil­i­ty to say no. What Are Bound­aries? Per­son­al bound­aries are emo­tion­al, phys­i­cal, and men­tal lim­its that we estab­lish. Bound­aries dif­fer from per­son to per­son, and are: based on one’s needs and desires­de­signed to pro­tect him or her­self from being used, manip­u­lat­ed, or even vio­lat­ed by oth­ers. …

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