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3 Riffs on Relating

3 riffs on relat­ing — ideas and con­cepts about explor­ing the depth of inti­ma­cy The great­est error in rela­­tion­­ship-build­ing comes from the idea that your part­ner can “make you whole,” or will “make you hap­py.” Here are 3 riffs on relat­ing! Riff the First — The black hole I look at my core, the cen­ter of …

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Ask yourself, “What can I do, in this moment, to bring peace to this situation?”

Bring peace‑a way to find your­self in a ground­ed and whole man­ner. It means giv­ing up being right, among oth­er things.  Back in 1986, Dar­bel­la and I went on the arche­typ­i­cal Euro­pean Hol­i­day. We end­ed up spend­ing a good deal of time in Scot­land, tour­ing about, los­ing golf balls on dif­fi­cult cours­es, and vis­it­ing famous …

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Better relating — 6 Ideas

Bet­ter relat­ing — Of all the ways to Deep­en Rela­tion­ships, here are 6 of my favourites I sus­pect that most folk do not exam­ine their rela­tion­ship—except when things are off the rails. There’s a ten­den­cy to think  that rela­tion­ships are sup­posed to “just work,” andthat the pur­pose of find­ing a part­ner is to have some­one there to mag­i­cal­ly …

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Nothing is Apparent

Nothing is Apparent

Syn­op­sis: Noth­ing is Appar­ent to any­one else, and most stuff isn’t even appar­ent to you! The book most close­ly asso­ci­at­ed with this arti­cle is The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. One of the biggest mis­takes peo­ple make when relat­ing is assum­ing… well… pret­ty much every­thing. Noth­ing, though, is obvi­ous, and often, what’s “obvi­ous” to you real­ly isn’t, so how …

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Tools for Relating — Having the Best Relationship Ever

Tools for Relat­ing — it’s not enough to have some knowl­edge about rela­tion­ships… you need tools and tech­niques to excel at relat­ing. Here’s anoth­er sam­ple chap­ter from my rela­tion­ships book, The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. Enjoy!  If you’re look­ing for a part­ner that “fits you,” you owe it to your­self to read my book. Find Your Per­fect Part­ner It’s avail­able …

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