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I expect this article might be a little on the short side. I’m writing this in Bath, UK, on our way to our regular jaunt to Spain.
Less than a week ago we were in La Fortuna, Costa Rica, concluding our annual stay there. La Fortuna is at the foot of the Arenal Volcano, and is near to the cloud forest
The thing about the Cloud Forest is how things “inter-are”
Some of the main trees are 150 feet tall. They are hard to photograph because, you know, cloudy… and it’s dark under the big trees.
The bigger the tree, the more stuff is growing on the tree.
This picture shows bromeliads growing in the crook of a much smaller tree.
Such things grow out of the sides, in the crooks, and pretty much all along the trees.
I recently learned that bromeliaids and orchids are epiphites. This is a class of plants that:
… grows upon another plant (such as a tree) non-parasitically or sometimes upon some other object (such as a building or a telegraph wire), derives its moisture and nutrients from the air and rain and sometimes from debris accumulating around it. Epiphytes are usually found in the temperate zone (e.g., many mosses, liverworts, lichens and algae) or in the tropics (e.g., many ferns, cacti, orchids, and bromeliads). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epiphytes
So, my point?
This is nature, balanced. It is what balance looks like for us, too.
I’m not anthropomorphizing trees… but check this out. The stuff in the trees gets there by: being blown there, brought by animals or birds, and, I suspect, pooped out. They land in some good turf (peat moss, etc.) on the tree, and put down roots.
They do no damage to the tree, and in a sense use the tree to effectively get more light.
Some trees have hundreds of pounds of peat moss at their top, as well as thousands of plants growing along and in the tree.
What occurred to me is that this is how human relating might work.
The tree is like a teacher who provides learning, or Bodywork, or therapy, or is like an artist or a therapist passing on wisdom and skill. It stands there, and provides safety and shelter as the small plants root themselves in rich soil.
Like a good teacher.
Good teachers have their roots in the ground. They do not derive their nourishment from their students / clients, by rather from “source.” They make available a nourishing environment, and recognize that the roles will never be reversed… any more than an orchid could support a 150 foot tree.
The trees of the cloud forest, “stand not in each other’s shadow” to paraphrase The Prophet. This mirrors the relationship between couples.
That’s why Gibran included the analogy in a section of The Prophet speaking of Marriage:
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
We stand nearby, in the same space, as those who walk a similar path. And yet, we stand apart — unique, self-sustaining, reaching our roots deep, without interfering with the growth or path of others.
As the analogy falls slightly apart
Here’s another nature story: A guide told us about the Strangler Fig.
As with the epiphites., the seed is transmitted to a big tree. The strangler fig (all members of the genus ficus) put down long roots, that wrap around the tree.
The plant benefits from being high in the tree, thus getting lots of light.
In many cases, the layer of ficus leaves at top of the tree starves the tree of sunlight. Many of the supporting trees die, leaving a hollow in the centre of the fig tree.
The analogy falls apart because the tree, once “infested,” can’t get up and walk away, can’t disentangle itself from the plant that would use it, and then kill it.
But the analogy is apt at the level of: sometimes, the people who end up in our lives are like the strangler fig. When we notice the noose is tightening, despite the effort involved, it’s time to pull up roots and walk away!
Like I said, short, sweet, and filled with trees!