5 ways to pay attention
Pay attention — to yourself — we do so to be present for what is going on, all without attachment to the stories we tell ourselves.
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Look Wide, Focus Narrow
Look Wide, Focus Narrow — learning to shift your focus means you automatically see a “bigger picture” Not long ago, I was rooting around in some old photos, and I came upon one of me playing golf. In Scotland, in 1986. I stopped playing golf many years ago, paradoxically after 2 great years of finally
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On Learning about Letting Go
Letting go of the belief that the way you see things (the story you tell yourself) is either real or true is difficult–it’s the hardest lesson. It is when reality conflicts with the story, however, that a real opportunity for growth and shifting occurs. Given how 2020 went, a lot of people are questioning their
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Setting Boundaries
Setting Boundaries — one source for stress is a lack of boundaries, AKA the inability to say no. What Are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are emotional, physical, and mental limits that we establish. Boundaries differ from person to person, and are: Setting boundaries is a personal responsibility, rooted in self-care and a desire to cultivate well-being. The premise is that no one and nothing can
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Appreciating Life
The art of appreciating life is seldom practiced. I suspect this is so because appreciation actually contradicts our belief about how much is ‘wrong’ with life.
The Dance of Shadow and Light
The Dance of Shadow and Light is where the juice is. Here, we discover the interplay of presence and action. Learn to let go of rules, and live! One way artists achieve “three dimensionality” is to create the illusion of depth through the interplay of shadow and light. A painting featuring nothing but light would be a
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Better relating — 6 Ideas
Better relating — Of all the ways to Deepen Relationships, here are 6 of my favourites I suspect that most folk do not examine their relationship — except when things are off the rails. There’s a tendency to think Nothing could be further from the truth. To quote David Schnarch, in “Passionate Marriage,” a primary relationship is a crucible. In other words, the heat of the relationship
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Zen and Being Yourself
Synopsis: zen and being yourself — reality is that which is right in front of us. Descriptions of reality are convenient fictions. Most of the people I come across are trying (desperately…) to have an experience other than the one they are having. Which, I suppose, is sort of an authentic thing to want, given that the
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A New Model for Relating
In order to have a better relationship, you have to change how you are doing things. You need a new model for relating. So, here it is!
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Tools for Relating — Having the Best Relationship Ever
Tools for Relating — it’s not enough to have some knowledge about relationships… you need tools and techniques to excel at relating. Here’s another sample chapter from my relationships book, The. Best. Relationship. Ever. Enjoy! If you’re looking for a partner that “fits you,” you owe it to yourself to read my book. Find Your Perfect Partner It’s available
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