Mind, Meditation, Suffering, Letting Go
Mind, Meditation, Suffering, Letting Go — it’s difficult to let go of our own stories, especially about how we suffer. Here are some hints.
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Relating–It’s Not What you Think
Synopsis: Relating is a task that moves in one direction — from you to your partner. It is meant to be an exercise in self-awareness. First of all, most of what I’m going to suggest has a “language component” to it. IMHO, one of the few things that Freud was right about was what are called
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Things Change When You Do
Things Change When You Do — this is about is how we deal with events that seem larger than life. Typically, these events are categorized as “This is not fair!” Gathered under this umbrella are things like death, illness, accidents, global catastrophes, abuse, and the like. Darbella and I once led a seminar. One of the participants was
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5 ways to pay attention
Pay attention — to yourself — we do so to be present for what is going on, all without attachment to the stories we tell ourselves.
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On Learning about Letting Go
Letting go of the belief that the way you see things (the story you tell yourself) is either real or true is difficult–it’s the hardest lesson. It is when reality conflicts with the story, however, that a real opportunity for growth and shifting occurs. Given how 2020 went, a lot of people are questioning their
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Setting Boundaries
Setting Boundaries — one source for stress is a lack of boundaries, AKA the inability to say no. What Are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are emotional, physical, and mental limits that we establish. Boundaries differ from person to person, and are: Setting boundaries is a personal responsibility, rooted in self-care and a desire to cultivate well-being. The premise is that no one and nothing can
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How to Communicate Better Using Dialogue
Communicate Better: Dialogue is a tool for self-exploration. It’s not a way to get others to behave, but rather a way to learn about yourself. I’ve written a ton of articles about communication and dialogue. I’ve focused on how to communicate better in all of my books, and can state categorically that good communication skills
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Better relating — 6 Ideas
Better relating — Of all the ways to Deepen Relationships, here are 6 of my favourites I suspect that most folk do not examine their relationship — except when things are off the rails. There’s a tendency to think Nothing could be further from the truth. To quote David Schnarch, in “Passionate Marriage,” a primary relationship is a crucible. In other words, the heat of the relationship
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The Relationship Tango
The relationship tango — the purpose of a relationship is the personal growth of both of the people in the relationship. This flies in the face of the romantic notion that relationships are there to get my needs met. Often, people think that what they see in movies or on the soaps is “real.” Let’s
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On Just Sitting
Just Sitting — a way of doing meditation that needs nothing. NO counting breaths, no mantras. Just sitting. Want more help with things like dealing with stress, learning to combat pain naturally, meditation and Qi Gong? Check out our Book / Videos packet, Finding Your Flexibility. It’s a pdf guide, and a group of online
