This Endless Moment

Look Wide, Focus Narrow

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Look Wide, Focus Nar­row  —  learn­ing to shift your focus means you auto­mat­i­cal­ly see a “big­ger pic­ture” Not long ago, I was root­ing around in some old pho­tos, and I came upon one of me play­ing golf. In Scot­land, in 1986. I stopped play­ing golf many years ago, para­dox­i­cal­ly after 2 great years of finally

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How to Communicate Better Using Dialogue

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Com­mu­ni­cate Bet­ter: Dia­logue is a tool for self-explo­ra­tion. It’s not a way to get oth­ers to behave, but rather a way to learn about your­self. I’ve writ­ten a ton of arti­cles about com­mu­ni­ca­tion and dia­logue. I’ve focused on how to com­mu­ni­cate bet­ter in all of my books, and can state cat­e­gor­i­cal­ly that good com­mu­ni­ca­tion skills

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The Relationship Tango

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The rela­tion­ship tan­go  —  the pur­pose of a rela­tion­ship is the per­son­al growth of both of the peo­ple in the rela­tion­ship. This flies in the face of the roman­tic notion that rela­tion­ships are there to get my needs met. Often, peo­ple think that what they see in movies or on the soaps is “real.” Let’s

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10 Quick Examples of Zen Living

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Exam­ples of Zen Liv­ing  —  here’s how to sim­pli­fy your life and way of being 1. One thing at a time Mul­ti­task­ing is impos­si­ble. Watch your­self when you attempt it. What you are actu­al­ly doing is turn­ing your atten­tion from one thing to anoth­er, to anoth­er, rapid­ly. And, because chang­ing your focus takes ener­gy, noth­ing gets your full atten­tion. Exper­i­ment: watch your

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Zen and Being Yourself

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Syn­op­sis: zen and being your­self  —  real­i­ty is that which is right in front of us. Descrip­tions of real­i­ty are con­ve­nient fic­tions. Most of the peo­ple I come across are try­ing (des­per­ate­ly…) to have an expe­ri­ence oth­er than the one they are hav­ing. Which, I sup­pose, is sort of an authen­tic thing to want, giv­en that the

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Tools for Relating  —  Having the Best Relationship Ever

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Tools for Relat­ing  —  it’s not enough to have some knowl­edge about rela­tion­ships… you need tools and tech­niques to excel at relat­ing. Here’s anoth­er sam­ple chap­ter from my rela­tion­ships book, The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. Enjoy!  If you’re look­ing for a part­ner that “fits you,” you owe it to your­self to read my book. Find Your Per­fect Part­ner It’s available

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