5 blocks to passion

Blocks to Passion

Blocks to Pas­sion — we are brought up to make find­ing and liv­ing our pas­sion dif­fi­cult. Here are 5 ways this hap­pens, and some alter­na­tives It seems fun­ny to me that peo­ple argue against dis­cov­er­ing and liv­ing their pas­sion. Let’s look at a cou­ple of dis­trac­tions, and some ways to find your way through. I …

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Learning Flexibility

Learn­ing flex­i­bil­i­ty — stop mak­ing excus­es for con­tin­u­ing to do what does­n’t work — is an impor­tant part of liv­ing the wise life It’s sad that most peo­ple rigid­ly behave in ways that get them what they don’t want, and then blame oth­ers or the sit­u­a­tion, rather than their behav­iour, for the prob­lem. My first book …

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3 Riffs on Relating

3 riffs on relat­ing — ideas and con­cepts about explor­ing the depth of inti­ma­cy The great­est error in rela­­tion­­ship-build­ing comes from the idea that your part­ner can “make you whole,” or will “make you hap­py.” Here are 3 riffs on relat­ing! Riff the First — The black hole I look at my core, the cen­ter of …

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Ask yourself, “What can I do, in this moment, to bring peace to this situation?”

Bring peace‑a way to find your­self in a ground­ed and whole man­ner. It means giv­ing up being right, among oth­er things.  Back in 1986, Dar­bel­la and I went on the arche­typ­i­cal Euro­pean Hol­i­day. We end­ed up spend­ing a good deal of time in Scot­land, tour­ing about, los­ing golf balls on dif­fi­cult cours­es, and vis­it­ing famous …

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Creating and Maintaining Relationships that Work

Cre­at­ing and Main­tain­ing Rela­tion­ships that Work — rela­tion­ships that work don’t just hap­pen. You have to com­mit to mak­ing them work. It’s amaz­ing how often, when we’re talk­ing with oth­er cou­ples, the con­ver­sa­tion turns to rela­tion­ships and relat­ing. As you like­ly know, I’ve writ­ten a cou­ple of books about this top­ic. (see: The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever.) Just the …

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