Curiosity, Integrity and Balance — No matter how good I get at interacting and relating with Darbella, I am always practicing! The real issue is what happens when I lose focus and “slip.”
The Zen of Conflict — the essential disappointment, comes from the pain of realizing that it is impossible have the same perspective as another.
Romance is sanitized, socially acceptable lust. It’s also a minor stage in building a deep and meaningful relationship. Romance inevitably leads to conflict, and can lead to a depth that is quite remarkable.
While cyber relationships are convenient, nothing beats face to face dialogue. We’ll discuss both.
Knowing one’s intent is key for letting go of game playing and getting on with the core of relating. Learn how to let go of hiding your intent, as you question your motivations deeply.
Lust — Caution — The Perils of Romance — Most people fall first into lust, which they convert into socially acceptable things like romance and move. This article explores this process of sanitizing lust, and suggests Zen alternatives
More on letting go — letting go is detaching from the need to either be right or to control. It’s dealing with the situation at hand, and with compassion.
Left to our own devices, we are never better than our list of rules. Right and wrong discussions lead precisely nowhere. Here are 5 ways to step out of this swamp, giving you the chance to free yourself, and let others be.
Swimming in Your own Sauce — about Delusion — Swimming with Delusion — there is no escaping our delusions. It’s the water we swim in. But hey, it would be nice to notice…
Selfish, Self-aware, Selfless — it’s not selfish to work on yourself… it’s the only way to shift what isn’t working. It’s essential that we ‘get our noses on our side of the fence,’ do our work, and be real
