Soft Eyes and an Open Heart
Soft Eyes and an Open Heart — open heartedness requires an empty heart — a difficult concept for Westerners to grasp. Soft eyes produce astounding clarity. Let’s see how this works as a dance of intimacy.
Blame and the Guilt Button
Blame and the Guilt Button — people use blaming as a weapon — using guilt as a way to manipulate others into doing their bidding. The cure? Self-responsibility.
Changes of Behaviour
Changing Your Approach — letting go of blaming externals is hard, but blaming externals means staying stuck
Accepting Yourself
Accepting Yourself — learning to accept and work with all of you is key to living a fulfilling life
Reality Mismatch
We all have developed an internal picture, (or pictures) of “reality.” We stack evidence for the validity of our internal picture. Stress occurs when our internal picture clashes with the external world.
5 Ways to Get Your Act Together
5 Ways to Get Your Act Together — Life isn’t easy. We all need help figuring out elegant ways to live
Inner Demons, The Shadow, and Integration
Inner Demons, The Shadow, and Integration — there’s the stuff we know about ourselves, the stuff we resist, and the stuff we stuff, — our Shadow. Working with all of it, non-judgementally, is key for becoming whole.
Dropping the Ego — Self-actualized as compared to self-absorbed — Whole Being
Dropping the Ego — The ego wants us to be special, to get attention, and are on us relentlessly — judging us as failures while spurring us on to do the same stuff. The self-actualized person is able, again and again, to step out of this game.
Owning Your Life — Self-responsible as compared to Blaming — Whole Being
Owning Your Life — We’ve been conditioned since birth to blame — to make others responsible for who and where
Having Integrity — Truthful as Compared to Devious — Whole Being
Having Integrity — Truthful as compared to devious — Learning the value of both honesty and truthfulness strengthens your relationships, and is foundational for living a life of integrity