5 ways to pay attention
Pay attention — to yourself — we do so to be present for what is going on, all without attachment to the stories we tell ourselves.
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On Learning about Letting Go
Letting go of the belief that the way you see things (the story you tell yourself) is either real or true is difficult–it’s the hardest lesson. It is when reality conflicts with the story, however, that a real opportunity for growth and shifting occurs. Given how 2020 went, a lot of people are questioning their
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On NOT Going Home For the Holidays
Going Home for the Holidays? Nope. Just stay away from the crowds, eh? Maybe next year… So, what might you do for yourself this year? Or for yourself and your home circle? Here are a few ideas. I suspect none of us are going to forget 2020. Masks. Isolation. Thousands upon thousands of deaths, millions afflicted. And
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Ceilings and The Dynamics of Depression
Ceilings and The Dynamics of Depression — depression is simply a label, and for most of us, not a helpful one. Let’s explore depression and see if there’s a link between negative stories and depression. So, I received a question: Delighted to make this our topic! There are several things here. A little medical talk, a
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Setting Boundaries
Setting Boundaries — one source for stress is a lack of boundaries, AKA the inability to say no. What Are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are emotional, physical, and mental limits that we establish. Boundaries differ from person to person, and are: Setting boundaries is a personal responsibility, rooted in self-care and a desire to cultivate well-being. The premise is that no one and nothing can
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Appreciating Life
The art of appreciating life is seldom practiced. I suspect this is so because appreciation actually contradicts our belief about how much is ‘wrong’ with life.
How to Communicate Better Using Dialogue
Communicate Better: Dialogue is a tool for self-exploration. It’s not a way to get others to behave, but rather a way to learn about yourself. I’ve written a ton of articles about communication and dialogue. I’ve focused on how to communicate better in all of my books, and can state categorically that good communication skills
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Fearless Living — 7 Tips
Fearless living: Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In Zen, we say this is simple, as in “Simply Sit.” Or, “Pay attention!” Or, “Wake up!” Introduction to Fearless Living Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In
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The Dance of Shadow and Light
The Dance of Shadow and Light is where the juice is. Here, we discover the interplay of presence and action. Learn to let go of rules, and live! One way artists achieve “three dimensionality” is to create the illusion of depth through the interplay of shadow and light. A painting featuring nothing but light would be a
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Better relating — 6 Ideas
Better relating — Of all the ways to Deepen Relationships, here are 6 of my favourites I suspect that most folk do not examine their relationship — except when things are off the rails. There’s a tendency to think Nothing could be further from the truth. To quote David Schnarch, in “Passionate Marriage,” a primary relationship is a crucible. In other words, the heat of the relationship
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