Setting Boundaries

Set­ting Bound­aries  —  one source for stress is a lack of bound­aries, AKA the inabil­i­ty to say no. What Are Bound­aries? Per­son­al bound­aries are emo­tion­al, phys­i­cal, and men­tal lim­its that we estab­lish. Bound­aries dif­fer from per­son to per­son, and are: Set­ting bound­aries is a per­son­al respon­si­bil­i­ty, root­ed in self-care and a desire to cul­ti­vate well-being. The premise is that no one and noth­ing can

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Better relating  —  6 Ideas

Bet­ter relat­ing  —  Of all the ways to Deep­en Rela­tion­ships, here are 6 of my favourites I sus­pect that most folk do not exam­ine their rela­tion­ship — except when things are off the rails. There’s a ten­den­cy to think  Noth­ing could be fur­ther from the truth. To quote David Schnarch, in “Pas­sion­ate Mar­riage,” a pri­ma­ry rela­tion­ship is a cru­cible. In oth­er words, the heat of the relationship

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Zen and Being Yourself

Syn­op­sis: zen and being your­self  —  real­i­ty is that which is right in front of us. Descrip­tions of real­i­ty are con­ve­nient fic­tions. Most of the peo­ple I come across are try­ing (des­per­ate­ly…) to have an expe­ri­ence oth­er than the one they are hav­ing. Which, I sup­pose, is sort of an authen­tic thing to want, giv­en that the

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On Finding Your Flexibility

Find­ing Your Flex­i­bil­i­ty  —  Some years ago, the Work­er’s Com­pen­sa­tion Board in Ontario invit­ed me to start work­ing with injured work­ers. Dar­bel­la and I taught them med­i­ta­tion, qi gong, and some yoga stretch­es.  We thought we were going to take the project province wide, but then the gov­ern­ment shift­ed pri­or­i­ties, and stopped hir­ing out­side consultants.

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Finding Your Flexibility
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